I have a lot of temptations. Everyday, I am tempted not to get out of my bed; I want to sleep in. Maybe take a pill that will just knock me out and sleep all day, possibly another day.
There was a time in 2008 where I was so busy that I opted to schedule the sleeping in. Sunday morning was saved for TV, and an egg bacon and provolone cheese sandwich made by yours truly. I would finish my freshly brewed jug of coffee and lay down on the sofa, Hoping I would fall asleep, and most of the time I don’t; but it was my time; phone was off and no one is around.
Sunday mornings were my favorites, but not anymore. I have been getting tempted to do something crazy like go out of town on the weekends. Enticement like going out to party in another town or meet up with friends or meet up women who have managed to excite me for a little while before the flame runs out; overwhelm my life. Not that I am complaining, the temptations break the consistency and predictability of life.
They are an escape for the endless number of demands that life brings with it. Excitements’ aside sometimes I just want to turn off my phone and stare at the roof keeping my brain empty. Someone once told me the demands of life are ‘mind over matter; if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.’
Those I know, and are friends with seem like they have their shit together. They have the consistencies of existence set on replay and have somehow occupied the rest of their free time with hobbies. Hobbies are I suppose outlets from consistencies, but the way I see it, a lot of people seem to use it as a replacements for serious problems in the real part of life.
The idea seems like I am not content with my career, but at least I have my weekend hobby;’ I will keep painting one canvas every weekend and hope my issues with my family will go away.
I was once reading a forum in which one of the members was asking how he wanted to get away with a small legal problem he had. A slew of people told him some options and one guy said, you can keep postponing the issues and most likely get away with out dealing with it. But it will always be in your mind. Just go take care of it and your mind will be free.
It was one of those big aha moments; some things will always stay in the back of your mind till you deal with it. I believed it and it’s not easy to go deal with your issues but after about 4 years after reading that, I think I have completely changed. Problems, I take care of it so I don’t always have to think about it.
I know a few people that just keep their whole life scheduled to do stuff; Random things 5 weeks in advance, just so that they don’t feel lonely; or so that they don’t deal with the major issues in their life.
I am glad I have my hobbies which make me happier than a pig in shit. But a hobby is an extra curricula activity. You have to make some changes in your life, and not hide behind stuff, to do.
That just seems like you are postponing the inevitable.
Published by January 8th, 2010 in Advice and Personal.Send this post to a friend
Nice read!
There were some “aha moments” when i read this but being practical is the challenge, i guess. Dealing with issues that are mind boggling is still the most challenging stuff.
lol @ mind over matter…good one!
A really nice read Noli.
well written nolawi…u manage to pull out at least 1 good article around new years’ ~ a cycle i’ve noticed
Great post Nolawi…
“Problems, I take care of it so I don’t always have to think about it.”…Well said!
That is one of the major points that the concepts of “Getting Things Done (GTD)” or “Processing to Zero” advocate.
…One of my relatives recently updated his status with
“After planning it for days, weeks and months, it only took 15 minutes to get it done”. Can’t be said in a better way and this should be a discipline for most of our tasks.
Happy 2010.
Process to Zero!
Bruck
YOU SEEM TO USE CONSISTENCY AND STABILITY INTERCHAGEABLY .
Nols, how in the world do you expect to fall asleep after having a jug full of freshly brewed coffee…lol
Nice article tho, I like it.
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you are right they are not necessarily depended on eachother… but there is some relationship .. and I understand that!
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