In my business, that is the web world words like SEO, analytics and great content are thrown around. For most of you they might not mean much but they break or make a business or a website.
At the end ‘Content is King,’ brings in the people. Magazine editors and web publishers knew this long time ago, and successful bloggers are making living. Of course, it’s a different world trying to compete in a niche market.
Here at bernos, I analyze the traffic. Where is it coming from? What are they looking for? It’s interesting in two aspects, for me. I am in the business and the topics interest me.
One of the most read bernos post is the “How to Ask Ethiopian Girls Out?” almost 400 comments and counting. The top searched key words that direct traffic to bernos are “bernos, bernos blog, and then Ethiopian girls.” People are coming to bernos looking for Ethiopian girls; and I find it fascinating that there are more people looking for Ethiopian girls as opposed to African Tees.
Google tracks top searched keywords via Google trends and that information is public up to a certain extent. I wish, much like many SEO guru’s and web marketers I could have a good look in their data for demographic tendencies.
How to land an Ethiopian girl?
How To Pick Up An Ethiopian Girl? According to Roosh you need to create a connection with her. Of course if you are already Ethiopian you can skip this step.
Don’t get intimidated by beauty? According to the guy that asked the question, it seems like he has a fetish like need for an Ethiopian girl. Of course, this approach will definitely get you turned down fast. Most Ethiopian girls do not know the reason some non-Ethiopian males want them for not who they are as opposed to what they are. You would have to make them think you are interested in who she is as opposed to what she is.
This dude apparently is intimidated by her Ethiopianess. At the end she is just a girl, just like every other girl. This outlook will definitely get you turn down real fast.
What you really need to know?
- Be straight forward, telling her your intention right away is a sure way not to get in the Ethiofused — friendship zone.
- Play it cool; girls do not respect men that are all over them.
- Be persistent, if you really want her. Ethiopian girls are more likely to be more confused than other women. She will change her mind if you are persistent.
- If she wants to be friends, run away. A girl whose intent is keeping many platonic male friends around tends to be selfish and just need attention.
Good Luck!
Published by June 16th, 2009 in Dating, Noteworthy, Social and Thoughts.Send this post to a friend
You are no genius! I think this are simple things everyone knows about. Well almost everyone.
I agree with everything! Good Post!
Nolawi that is not cool……don’t be telling men not to be just friends…..now you just been plain hater……
:/ I’m a girl and would give u one big wrong on all 4 points
I’m disappointed considering how many times u’ve blogged on relationships, women, Ethiopian girls … it seems u still have misconceptions.
First thing, being too straight forward won’t get u anywhere, say hi and then ask her out, she’ll think u’re a stalker for good
I’d give u credit for playing it cool, ’cause she’ll prolly play it cool at first too, but play it too cool and she’ll think u’re not interested
on being persistent, u say be persistent if u want her, then u say she’ll change her mind if u’re persistent … that’s sorta … contradictory, and “Ethiopian girls are more likely to be more confused than other women” why do u think that I wonder? I would argue BOTH girls and guys have their share of uncertainties, it’s only manifested differently in girls and guys
… and whatever is wrong with being friends???? if u find that u really like each other something more might come out of it …
Got a question for you, y r u so negative abt Ethio girls :-/
Nani,
woman are contradiction… thus the points contradict.. …
if a man doesn’t show that he is interested in the beginning then woman will not respect him. Woman like confident men and not showing your interest right away is a sign of your lack of confidence.
At the same time you have to be cool, don’t go crazy … show her your interest and step aways.. she will come… i think that is what the author was saying …playing it cool… not games minamin…
friendship is cool as long as i am not interested in you… what is the point of wasting time and attention and money with a girl that is not interested in that person?
Are you attracting all the men looking for ethiopian women to your website? or are you trying to really help them out. To me your advice sounds half-assed
this feels like Oprah giving advice on marriage and raising children…….
If you haven’t landed on one Ethiopian women yourself Nolawi, then I don’t know if I want to take your suggestion/advice.
like I said I’m speaking from the women’s perspective, I’m a girl and I’ve got girl friends, most would agree that showing too much interest at first gives the idea that u’re interested in one thing and one thing only – getting her in bed, if you show interest in her personality, her hobbies, … hanging out, you’re talking real relationship, getting to know one another. Another thing u need to understand is men have this mistaken notion that love at first sight is real, but most women don’t agree with that (I might add that it’s studied and proven, not my opinion)
and respect comes from knowing someone, if a girl disrespects you without knowing u, she aint worth it, so – get to know her first, u don’t have to be her best buddy, … mejemeria mawek metewawek, ketilo befikir misasak …
and has anyone noticed… the time says it’s 12:01 am June 17th, that’s like a few hours away :s
I think there are some good points in this article for any woman not just ethiopian woman. I am hispanic female dating Ethiopian guy and from what I have seen Ethiopian woman are no different that hispanic woman.
The only difference is they might play a hard to get game more from what I am reading here.
whats the obsession with the recipes?? its the deaf leading the blind.
it depends on the person. get to know the girl and then tailor your approach.
ethiofused doesn’t explain shit. here is a novel idea:sometimes it just a plain, simple, good old rejection from a girl to a guy. get over it.
I agree and disagree on some of your comments Nolawi. I def agree that a guy should be straight forward and step up to the plate. Same goes for girls. You will never really know until you ask. I also think guys need to play it cool. After all, no one likes someone who has stalker tendencies and has no life if their own. I must disagree on your comment that habesha women are confused. That is a big generalization and one I am not fond of. I think all women are different and to put them in a box is just so wrong. Last, the whole friend thing hits so close to home for me. I will admit I tend to be that girl that always has male friends around. I usually keep them as friends because I don’t feel an initial connection with them in that way. I also value my friendship and won’t go there with a friend unless I feel a deep connection. Surrounding yourself with friends is not a sign of needing attention. It shows the value you place on your friendships.
Oh please dude and dudettes… don’t tell me that friendship thing is not a benefit..
its not because a woman wants the guy she keeps him tagging around… its because the woman is confused and not sure or because she wants and needs the attention..
YOU MEAN THE BLIND LEADING THE DEAF?
Some of the points in the article are true. Coming from a male perspective who has had many abesha/habesha female friends and partners, being straight forward is a great thing only when you feel that your getting to know the person well enough to tell them something like that. Not all ethio women are on the same page of what they want their status to be, so being straight forward after will reduce confusion.
Persistent and being cool is always critical to attracting them. like you mentioned, in other words, if they don’t like you now they can grow to like you and respect your approach. Lastly, I 100% agree with the last statement. As nice as it sounds to be friends with many men platonicaly, not only does it look selfish for attention but it’s just a complete turn off to the man. It looks as if the girls doing too much to maintain every man that wants to befriend them.
Mr.Nolawi!
“In God We Trust…All Others Bring Data”.
Your web analytics data DOES NOT lie, it paints a factual and statistical reflection of your “niche” audience. If your user base is driven to you because “they” are seeking “ethiopian women” as oppose to your creative, unique and “ethiopian-esque” T-Shirts than maybe, just maybe you should introduce a new layer/business model to your website?
Such as!
Option A:
“Get that Ethiopian Chick!” – Professional Relationship Coaching and Consulting for the desperate non-Ethiopian whose infatuated by Ethiopian women, but can’t get any? Think about it, there is an audience out there that NEEDS some COACHING! Come on Coach, get on it!
Option B:
There is an niche market for just about anything, and Pornography has revolutionized and released (no pun intended) plenty of innovation to the world wide web. With that being said, why not venture of in the wonderful world of Porn? With an Ethiopian twist? Think about it!? Ha, the skits would be hilarious! I’m sure you could encourage some of your clients (from the Relationship Coaching venture) to sign up!? It’s a win/win yo. Your audience is right there, waiting! This could be the slam dunk economic stimulus the Ethiopian community needs? Dude, could you imagine the TShirt sales? “Ethiopian Porn Star”. The creative economy needs not be limited by antiquated cultural norms!
….yeah. Okay. Both options are viable and profitable.
Think about it.
ps: DATA/webstats are king/queen. They tell ya what your users wants!
Either way, keep up the great work!
Thank you.. ET,
I am an expert in the Field.. Not at all blind. I have had many ethiopian. Infact that is all I am interested in.
wow Nolawi i BEG to disagree on your last point, trust me, our egos are not THAT fragile!
LOL.
The ethiopian porn idea has been thought of since Lord knows when.Coaching helpless ethio crazed women is definitely a venture you should canon ball into. THink about how many of ethio men that can’t get it right let alone the rest of the “niche” world.
..as cliche as this sounds, when it comes to getting with Ethiopian women (or any women, regardless of race). I think the driving determining factor is the “individual” being “himself”. Ultimately, you can’t CON the confidence, it’s bold and genuine, hence the results are instant.
No need to “play games” and let time and probability dictate the obvious, just jump into the deep end and float in your unforgiving self…
quote the raven.
Hello Nol:
Let me ask you this. How many women did you date or be a friend so far? What was the reason they were attracted to u? Was it the same? Do u think it is because you are Cool, minamin…. I don’t think so.
Personally I don’t like any sort of generalization, specially when it comes to dating. We are different. Every women have some quality (which is different from women to women) she is looking from a man. When she see it, trust me, the field will be mutual. You don’t have to try hard or play any game.
Good Luck!
He probably became friends with most of them that’s where the attraction evolved. but!!!! I bet when he was with them he didn’t have the idea going in that the girl he’s interested in is tryinig to toggle X amount of male friends
Lets not get too complicated/philosophical people. The simple truth – porn/sex sells ergo why you have hits from searches on Ethiopian girls. Same reason why sites peddling mail order brides from Moscow are profitable. I say, slap that big a$$ girl (Angie is her name I think) on one of your Ts & sit back & start counting the $. To keep w/ the African theme, you can have a Zulu warrior poke her around w/ a spear or something… Interestingly, I saw her 1st on Bernos.
PS Friendship initiated by an attraction, is overrated or is one-sided & thus not genuine (too many hidden agendas). Or the man might be fruity.
New Commenter’s.
Keep the nick short… use the same nick … dont change the nick to fit the format
Use a real email address. Thank you… regardless what what email nick you use. Each person post is associated with an ip. so please respect the rules.
i think i am confused
this is nothing more than a ‘how to pick up chicks post’ u know those dudes that wrote a how to pick-up… bible and had conferences and reality shows minamin…funny world this is
so whachu picking her up for anyways?
umm yea so, under what authority or what resume qualifies someone to make such kind of calculative predictions like they are some kind of expert. It almost makes you wana say “THANK YOU FOR YOUR ENLIGHTINING THOSE WHO ARE BENEATH YOU YOUR HIGHNESS!!! I mean since this post is trying to create somekind of magic formula for “Landing Ethiopian Women”, why not just say, take your wallet and go buy one!! Stereotyping shows ignorance, which is why its a shame when we do so (including me)!!
Geez on matters of passion, calulations will not work no matter how much logic you wana throw around.
It’s not a formula eko its just a few tips to make the guy more likely to land her.
I am no expert, but i have experience. And I know some things are a no no… some things will turn off any woman… thus i share my thoughts.. if you disagree you disagree but no need… to say I am writing porn…
besaq motku!
How To Pick Up Ethiopian Girls – the g manifesto has some good tips as well.
women already know if they want you or not, so after HI, just don’t mess it up by saying something stupid, thats it.
A good question or topic should be how do Abesha women like to be approached? Let’s get some feedback on that.
E.T – Mostly from behind w/ the lights turned off…
lol……Seriously though. There seems to be some women on here that don’t totally agree with the publishers thoughts so let’s hear a womens perspective of how they would like to be addressed. @ SWM:
LMAO @ nolawi’s linkage
“I think Ethiopian girls are disproportionately beautiful, with their mahogany skin color, large eyes, high cheekbones, huge breasts and ass, and wild exotic hair. But unfortunately for non-Ethiopian men everywhere they keep to their own circle, judged by the fact that I have never seen a white guy with an Ethiopian girl. It’s not fair but that’s life.”
gimmie some of that wild exotic hair i beg! hahahaha
lmao @SWM
I thought I was being serious but if you insist then I think there is no defined 1 or 2 or n number of paths (routes) to get Jr to the ultimate prize node. (Wo’y tata – nerd in me is leaping out e’zih…) Hence, no amount of responses from the habesha women collective will answer your question or give us clarity in this area. “What habesha women want?” is only answerable at an individual level, just as it is for any woman, irrespective of her ethnicity… but the discussion & attempt to understand them as a unit is always fun. Futile but fun…
BTW I still think the behind approach is the safest move. Seems to appease most women…
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SWM,
“BTW I still think the behind approach is the safest move. Seems to appease most women”
It seems to appease most guys too lol inlcuding me, well as long as I am the approacher and not the approachee!!
anonx – Silent War Machine or — but does my color really matter in this topic?
BEZ – Fe’ss Ye’yazew Zi’la’y A’chilim… I think the Q was “how do Abesha WOMEN like to be approached?” but who am I to argue if you want to “turn it around”? Whatever floats your boat my man.
I do agree w/ you though, its a win win situation for both sides 
Is anyone here actually married?
I’d share our story of how we met, but it would take a while…
My word of advice – pray. The right relationship can make your life beautiful. The wrong one can make your life a nightmare.
None of know ourselves well enough to know what we REALLY want….what we will want in the future….and whether or not that “special someone” will still be special 20 years from now.
Only God knows. Pray and let God do the rest. Correction: Pray and then do what God tells you to do.
some of you are out of your freaking mind. habesha/ethio women are way over rated anyway. if you want to have a good time, go for some something more exotic like latina/chicana girls for a change.
SWM, nah im good. I aint turning nutting around, maybe your chick if you got one…ohhh snapp..lol Just Playin..but u right the topic is about ladies..so touche my brotha!!
Man who cares what race a chick is, just give me a chick that is on her grind, confident, beautiful, career oriented, humble and got values…if she happen to be ethiopian thats a plus..if not oh well, im not losing sleep over it. Dats just my view..so please dont jump on me lol
SWM- your comment-”mostly from behind with the lights turned off” ?????? hmmmmmmmmm…….. lol
@ Winta:
Right…unfortunetly the article is to enlighten the dudes, not y’all.
I think Nolawi missed some point…that No man should approch a woman unless he has the “Speech” on his pocket. Especially Ethio Women, since they are beginners or at least are at the recipient end of the corporate culture…she want to be seen as leading the “standard” life; she may even feel humiliated to be seen with Man who is doesn’t get the Corporate societies recognition. This is the current mind set of Ethio women. So, whoever has the money makes the rule….I’ve no doubt with that. Deliver the corporate comfort, thy shall surrender!
@maebel
what???
I think maebel is trying to let us all know, he is a poor cabbie who was left behind by an ambitious ex for an EE… How else can one explain the rambling? “at the recipient end of the corporate culture…”??? WTF!
BEZ – You got me there but if you seen my ex you wouldn’t be saying that
BTW you know who snaps fingers right?
lol I follow the money gets the panties wet talk, but you lost me on that corporate status yadayda
SWM-im glad you caught the world play on snaps cuz I did think about writing “snap snap”. If your ex is that horrendous we all are going to have to discard all your input in regards to women. If that is your taste, I am going to have to assume you get your knowledge from the chubby chasers manual!!
Girls want money n class on a guy. Supposedly women marry up n guys…don’t much care for money or class
BEZ – Come now, one bad chapter doesn’t define a man’s whole life. Besides topic was how to land an ET woman – no one said anything about her looks. BTW she is cute as hell just no gluteusmaximus-junkinthetrunk-badonkadonk to speak of. You wanted to turn her around, I was just saving you the trouble… But I have had to dip in the bottom of the barrel a few times for diff reasons, recession, one had just a beautiful soul etc etc… Lets hope you are not suggesting that disqualifies me from giving opinion on my whole experiences on ET women? Are you saying you never dated an ugly woman? If that is so then you are one lucky dude. If not then… people in glass houses…
Mostly women want security, men arm candy and the few lucky ones come 2gether for the right reason – love. I guess everyone has their own “good” reason…
SWM, haha I never dipped into “the bottom of the barrell”, YES I HAVE BEEN THAT SHALLOW lol, I been working on it though (the shallow part). My boy tells me I am a super picky wing-man all the time lol. But yea no glutusmaxiums is a big violation that is hard to overlook for me lol..What is it lil wayne said “you like a chick with no ass, you aint got shit” haha, I wouldnt go as far to say “you aint got shit” but you get the point. Dont get me in trouble with all the women out there, I was teasing you when I said you were disqualified. TO EACH IS OWN AND YES I KNOW THERE IS MORE TO A WOMAN THAN HER PHYSICAL FEATURES.
Annox, whats up man its been a while since I been on here, good to read your post on here again..Hidaya fell of the mape like me huh> lol
Did Michael Jackson really die today?
It’s in the news in LA. Sad
looooooooooooool. lmaooooooooooooo
my my my…our sisters are gonna get swollen heads from all this attention. This will just make it that much harder to have a normal conversation with Ethio girls in my hood. Although so far, the Ethio girls i’ve met have in general been nice and decent, maybe its the company I keep and the places I frequent hehehehe…
Anyways, my favorite women in the world (based on beauty + personality) rank as follows:
Brazilian (love to dance, confident, passionate, loyal)
Ethiopian (looks, culture, everything I love about myself)lol
Jamaican
Girlz in ATL, i don’t know why but the sisters there just ooze marriage material.
I’ll end my list here, but fellas always keep in mind that there is always another beauty around the corner, hopefully she’ll be the one. Don’t get obsessed with an image, reality is much more complex and fulfilling.
@ Markos:
The secret is just be yourself.Currently I am enjoying the language ,the food,and the affections of a sweet Ethiopian Queen.It’s great
I’d say the make/break deal is made before you said your first word. non verbal communications speak volume if you get the vibe approach and tell her how beautiful and attractive she is (if people are around even better) and then try to establish good rapport. Don’t jump the gun and end with an indication you would like to get to know her if that’s ok with her. there can only be two outcomes yes or no 50/50 is a pretty good odds. After all you do have something to offer her too so be confident.
howdy dont west ur time with ethio girls . they dont know what they want so they wanna have all. they want keep u as a friend coz they want a bakcup. or they wanna use u or they wanna show other girls that they can have all those men including u if they want. if u really want ethio girl i really dont advice it . do this go talk to her but dont give her to much attention when u do this she want u more coz she want to have u under her control so she will give u what u want to get u under her control but u should know once u get what u want dont fell to it keep urself cool and u shall have her under ur control as long as u want….dont tell this to girls …hahaha
lemaza. you saiy .emahaaa
Nolawi..
It’s an open air fact. Thank you for intelligent mind. Ethio ladies are really confused ones, they have no confidence and I wld say they are materialist too. I also c them they are poor in making love.
I found myself happy and pleased with the blondes and brunets. I don’t wanna to c an ethio girl why I b so foolish and increase my opportunity cost. I realized the value of time from economics.
@ Winta:
…nice post. agree that most ethio ladies are confused- around here- and bending backwards to please…
..and the konfident ones think they know everthing and want to wear the pants (a real fast way to get rid of a man)..
bottom line, we’re all sitting b/n the curlture we were born into a the culture we live ..tough balance
Genius
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I agree!! Ethiopian women love to be pursued. And I am Ethiopian woman. we are not easy.