Rahwina

That line was used just as an expression.If you have noticed it’s a reason usually given by the ferenjis (not all non-habeshas)when they want to break up with you for whatever reasons they sum it up with an ”I think we need some space” line.

Otherwise …I agree there are cultural diffrences. I don’t have anything against racial or inter cultural dating or marriage.

Rahwina:

Was I suppose to re you on this? The post was so long ago I dont even remember the thread & dont care to rehash… Most likely forgot what I bragged about (if I bragged at all). Sorry I couldn’t accommodate…

Peace!

Winta,
here is a Q for you….and anyone with a similar thought.
Seeing that we have a lot of Abesha families and friends, all born and raised out of Ethiopia/Eritrea, why is the line “I think we need some space…” associated with non-abesha ppl?I happen to be one who LOVES my space and thinks space sorta helps regroup in relationship issues. AND I suspect, I’m not the only abesha who does. Personally, I think communication solves this problem. If I woke up tomorrow and got married to an abesha born and raised in rural Sidamo where they speak Oromigna and maynot be as influenced by the Amhara and Western culture as Addis is…we will have cultural issues with occasional language issues because I’m not from there,I don’t speak Oromigna and I am not exposed to much of any Oromo culture…then what? Marrying an Ethiopian/Eritrean doesn’t solve anything if the communication isn’t there.

Mamitu:

I think all men like to brag abou their experiances regardless of their origions.
I agree with the virgin pretence. Women are considered as passive and innocent in our culture. Most of the time they accept and try to live with the expectations.There are also others who pretend.

On the other hand, marrying a non-ethiopian doesn’t always mean happyness. The trouble starts when he says ” I think we need some space ”:) or sth like that .

Biskut, there is a social substance here …dont’you think? For example, we talked about how SOME men (this one is for you Uberman tend to brag about stuff that should be private. Second lesson, some women tend to gravitate towards the “ladies man” but get less appreciation than they would have if they had given the “nice guy” a chance. how is that for anthropology/psychology substance for you?

Hey Wondata, wecome back man! nice read indeed…I’m cosigning on how SWEEEEEET your line was:

Ethiopian Beer, Honey Wine, leb leb Kitfo, and Goden Tibse was served over the Yarada lijoch jokes.

no substance uffff

Mamitu:

Wow… No need for a brush – do please dump the bucket on us ALL. Pitiful! This is precisely the kinda haste to generalize/disparage that leads to such ignorant remarks. Just one Q: Was your Mom pretending? Putting up a good act? Was your Father such a man? After all that was a broad stroke you swung. Think then pause & for you take another few extra moments before you type!!!

I sure hope not too many ehi’tochahin share your sentiments…

The moral of the story is, as it has been discussed above Habesha men tend to talk about their conquest whether imagined or real. So if a girl wants to date or have friends of the opposite gender, she is better of with a non-habesha guy who will not say things about her good or bad and to top it all he might even be more fun. And if she plans to marry an Habesha man she has to put up a good act of being like the Virgin Mary.

good point debtera

i was wrong…to say you were hating.. but i completely disagree

@15 and @18, Minew tenchachachuh? Why can’t we habeshas take criticism as we would a praise? The fact that I did not like the guys’ style, and commented on it does not automatically make me a hater. I do not have to show you ‘my blog’ or anything to prove am better, coz am not saying I am… I WAS JUST SAYING I PERSONALLY did not like his writing and found it hard to follow the story. @14 Uberman, you’re right… to each his own. So chill everybody!!

Small world…… hehehehehe

Grand ma, No you had the wrong impression about me, I might come across harsh or aggressive…….but I always make that sure I am speaking within the context of the topic. No need to take it further and make it personal. We are all here to exchange ideas from our perspective, right or wrong.

Yes, it is another day and we have moved on.

Happy Holidays!

Emebet:I think you have the wrong Sewye. But that is what I was talking about, I think that is what Wondata should have done. Ok, it is an issue to talk about, but the fact that he let him ‘brag’ about it and didnt say nothin’ doesnt make sense. If he was so moved by the issue to write about it, he should have done something about it wedyawinu.
But as for the guy who defended your honor, Thumbs up!!

Sewyew - you sound (or should i say read?) VERY familiar. do i not know you from Milk House on Bole? Were you the guy who defended my honor when some weshela (excuse my francais) said he had slept with me?

1. how many of you guys give the nice girl next door a chance, flirt with her or ask her out?????????? im sure not any more than the girls do with the nice guys.
2. we dont know the whole story so dont be quick to judge her for being sluty or having a bad taste.
(sorry if im repeating what has already been said, didnt go thru it all)

pe pe pe pe metahegn eko metahegn.. walid…

good point, i just didn’t like the assertion that the topic is stupid.. its a good one.

Grand Ma: Point well taken.

“Wondata, it seems to me that the fact that you have so many haters.. is because your articles are so popular. you are on your way to become the next Chelema.”

…Nolawi you cant be more wrong.I dont think anybody hates Wondata-not by a long shot.And he is not “hated” because his articles are “polpular”.As postive comments (on his articles) wouldnt amount to love for wondata, negative ones wouldnt automatically translate to hate for the “next chelama”.The last time I checked this blog is more about ideas than anything personal.So why personalize now?

A more accurate asessment would be his article generated so many responses because it touches a more controversial subject.And controversial is not necessairly popular.If you noticed more than half of the entries are responses to other entries than to the article perse.May be his articles, if not popular themselves, would help to popularize the blog.And we all want that,dont we?

Nolawi, if I overacted it is only because I feel that anything you said on this blog has much more weight than anything any of us would say.Yes, we all hold you to a higher standard since it is you who managed to keep the blog civil, dynamic and pleasant.Keep up the good work!

Chala,
Chala-la-la-la chala-la-la cha-la-la! You see…I came right back at you, after all you’re not the weakest link. The world had moved on, my brother. Have a nice Holidays!

Chala:

I hope you are not referring to me? I re’d you twice (this makes the 3rd). All I can say is you started by labeling Wondata instead of criticizing his article & I never label you. So if you are gonna post something be prepared to defend your entry. I know it’s hard when confronted w/ the truth & someone w/ better vocab. At any rate, I’ll end it at that. No need to respond as I don’t expect anything of substance from you. Peace!

sewyew you are so NEGATIVE!!!!! I joke man:-)
Glad to see a level-headed person who can see the irony.

Labeling is the easiest and simplest attempt to discredit someone’s idea. He must be angry; he must have issues hence he disagrees. I have been called and named everything under the sun but I was the one labeled uncivil and negative…………mind you I never acknowledged the attention starved neighborhood bull dog a single time that has been screaming my name…………I lost count how many times…………..just love the humor.

Ay Wondata…… lijituan wesdeh WONDATA litilat sitasib someone put some crazy image in your head huh??? Hey no need to be pissed about the guy…..maybe he did it, maybe he didn’t. I feel that as much as there are shokakoch talkin’ shit….. there are sefsafoch listening to them. Why did you give his comment so much attention and place to the extent of bringing it here. If you were so touched, you should have told him then and there.

“he implied that he had something with her in the past and then he mentioned what it was he had with her that is.

I thought what a piece of shit this guy is, he had to brag his conquest that I couldn’t pursue a conquest of mine own. I was disappointed as any guy would have.”

I think you are as bad as him. When you have a problem with what someone says or does……tell them. Dont wake up the next morning and write something about it. You had the chance to educate a brother…. you chose to talk about it…….

Not so much difference for me.

How do you know for sure the guy was not lying about the whole “fingering” thing, abesha guys are some of the biggest liars, he might have just said that just to put Qarya in your game.

lol… you people r killing me. what’s up with ‘fingering’ anyway. that is so lame and retarded. if you have to do it in the bathroom, why not go all da way to 4th base…. hahaaaaa

Tsegure:

One girl + one man + one story = EVERYONE??? Come on now…

BTW the holiday jingle – nice; the berbere finger – a bit corny.