Comments on: Fool Me Twice! http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:50:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: maebel http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-93727 maebel Wed, 07 Nov 2007 12:05:15 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-93727 Wud...So nice to learn that you still had the poetic sarcasm with you... Wud…So nice to learn that you still had the poetic sarcasm with you…

]]> By: Dodie http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-93139 Dodie Mon, 05 Nov 2007 16:56:35 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-93139 <blockquote>I mean deep down inside we all expect but we cover it up in order to prevent ourselves from major disappointments. </blockquote> Yup, there is no such thing. I really believe that expectations are a part of life and we ALL do it. When people say, "don't have any expectations"..especially in relationships, that is SOOOOO unrealistic to me. I mean, I'm only human and of course I'll have my expectations. I'll admit, I cover them up most of the time so I won't get disappointed but they are always there:-(

I mean deep down inside we all expect but we cover it up in order to prevent ourselves from major disappointments.

Yup, there is no such thing. I really believe that expectations are a part of life and we ALL do it. When people say, “don’t have any expectations”..especially in relationships, that is SOOOOO unrealistic to me. I mean, I’m only human and of course I’ll have my expectations. I’ll admit, I cover them up most of the time so I won’t get disappointed but they are always there:-(

]]> By: wudnesh http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-92715 wudnesh Sun, 04 Nov 2007 06:20:53 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-92715 Maeb, good to know u r around :) hmm...Maebiye,I wonder what will happen if you were to accomodate (or to put it the way u said it, 'meet the interest of') two of your dear friends at the same time? I guess we'll find your right foot in the upper river, and your left foot in the lower one? :P Maeb, good to know u r around :)
hmm…Maebiye,I wonder what will happen if you were to accomodate (or to put it the way u said it, ‘meet the interest of’) two of your dear friends at the same time? I guess we’ll find your right foot in the upper river, and your left foot in the lower one? :P

]]> By: maebel http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-92483 maebel Sat, 03 Nov 2007 08:59:28 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-92483 Nol, Your calculation works for every of human blunders that we came across every day. I personally don't expect too much from people. And that is the reason why I am not angry most of the time. I call it "the law of self allowing" as the famous book puts it. I allow people to be themselves. I ask no more and any less from them. I ain't dwell on the thought of changing them or their attitides. Rather it is by far so simple to change yoursef to meet their interest and walk their way. The only thing that matters is how important is that person to you and to evaluate his/her worth? If he/she is worth your sucrifice of your time and energy... be it. Follow the river without complaining about. Nol, Your calculation works for every of human blunders that we came across every day. I personally don’t expect too much from people. And that is the reason why I am not angry most of the time. I call it “the law of self allowing” as the famous book puts it. I allow people to be themselves. I ask no more and any less from them. I ain’t dwell on the thought of changing them or their attitides. Rather it is by far so simple to change yoursef to meet their interest and walk their way. The only thing that matters is how important is that person to you and to evaluate his/her worth? If he/she is worth your sucrifice of your time and energy… be it. Follow the river without complaining about.

]]> By: YekeyDama http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-91093 YekeyDama Mon, 29 Oct 2007 09:16:24 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-91093 Fool me once, you PunKeD/Juiced me good. Fool me twice, I will bitch slap yo ass from one end of the pole to de oder! Sup Bernosians, been a while... damn it didn't anyone send out a search crew in flega of me, mts I guess it is true what they say in Fashion 'this season your in, the next you are out' :( Serves you right to know that I got busy with the wedding and all (yeah it is OhFish-al, The love of MWC and YekeyDama that was ignited & united here @ the floor of Bernos took flight to the outer deep space of nine and we are happy to announce our voyage has lead us to the alter of StarStuck matrimony. Many thanks to those of you who have encouraged our stroking :P) (Celbiye you missed fireworks as the Sir Mize :P) Fool me once, you PunKeD/Juiced me good. Fool me twice, I will bitch slap yo ass from one end of the pole to de oder!

Sup Bernosians, been a while… damn it didn’t anyone send out a search crew in flega of me, mts I guess it is true what they say in Fashion ‘this season your in, the next you are out’ :(
Serves you right to know that I got busy with the wedding and all (yeah it is OhFish-al, The love of MWC and YekeyDama that was ignited & united here @ the floor of Bernos took flight to the outer deep space of nine and we are happy to announce our voyage has lead us to the alter of StarStuck matrimony. Many thanks to those of you who have encouraged our stroking :P) (Celbiye you missed fireworks as the Sir Mize :P)

]]> By: ye'addis ababawa http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90319 ye'addis ababawa Sat, 27 Oct 2007 06:12:39 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90319 zelabaju I’m talking about expectations and not the method used to call a person or receive a phone call. So, whether be it through a cell phone or a land line, my point is that we do expect to receive a call. zelabaju
I’m talking about expectations and not the method used to call a person or receive a phone call. So, whether be it through a cell phone or a land line, my point is that we do expect to receive a call.

]]> By: zelabaju http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90016 zelabaju Fri, 26 Oct 2007 11:41:23 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90016 "Have you not expected “that special” phone call form a date" Fortunatly, this is resolved with the mobile phone technology..You don't have to stick in you living waiting for the call. “Have you not expected “that special” phone call form a date”

Fortunatly, this is resolved with the mobile phone technology..You don’t have to stick in you living waiting for the call.

]]> By: zelabaju http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90015 zelabaju Fri, 26 Oct 2007 11:38:33 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-90015 i have also a couple of friends like that: always late. I figured out something to get the less of the incoveniance.I never give them an appointement somewhere where i have nothing to do.In a street,bus station .. always somewhere where i am busy: at my place,a book store (i could read),...Once i have finished what i was doing, i hust leave. i always ask myself would i go there if i had not an appointement with him? If it is a clear no, i change the place. i told them so. i have also a couple of friends like that: always late. I figured out something to get the less of the incoveniance.I never give them an appointement somewhere where i have nothing to do.In a street,bus station .. always somewhere where i am busy: at my place,a book store (i could read),…Once i have finished what i was doing, i hust leave.

i always ask myself would i go there if i had not an appointement with him? If it is a clear no, i change the place. i told them so.

]]> By: Nolawi http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89357 Nolawi Wed, 24 Oct 2007 18:49:21 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89357 [quote comment="89274"]<strong>Don’t expect + positive outcome = unexpected positive outcome…</strong> c’mon guys ...... [/quote] Loooooooooooool [quote comment="89274"]Don’t expect + positive outcome = unexpected positive outcome…
c’mon guys ……
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Loooooooooooool

]]> By: justme http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89329 justme Wed, 24 Oct 2007 17:11:18 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89329 Ye'addisababawaa..."p.s if anyone knows the secret to how not to expect..do share it with me" there is no such thing..always there is expectations and there is always disappointments (....it is part of live..so if someone say i don't expect anything from anybody (it is lie..) and you are missing huge part of life. If you expect then your expectation did not meet well sorry but get over it. If your expectation did meet then wooww..enjoy it. Lets not avoid expecation in our life because of we dont like to be disappointed!! Ye’addisababawaa…”p.s if anyone knows the secret to how not to expect..do share it with me”

there is no such thing..always there is expectations and there is always disappointments (….it is part of live..so if someone say i don’t expect anything from anybody (it is lie..) and you are missing huge part of life. If you expect then your expectation did not meet well sorry but get over it. If your expectation did meet then wooww..enjoy it. Lets not avoid expecation in our life because of we dont like to be disappointed!!

]]> By: ye'addis ababawa http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89274 ye'addis ababawa Wed, 24 Oct 2007 13:35:43 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89274 <strong>Don’t expect + positive outcome = unexpected positive outcome…</strong> c’mon guys ...... I mean deep down inside we all expect but we cover it up in order to prevent ourselves form major disappointments. Have you not expected “that special” phone call form a date you had the night before? or expect others to treat u the way u would, regardless of who they are? Don’t get me started on time management. I now live in Ethiopia and I still expect ppl to show up on time.. do I get disappointed? Hell yeah, ALL THE TIME. But I won’t learn form my mistakes. <strong>I REFUSE TO LEARN </strong>coz I expect oneday, this nation of ours will learn and appreciate the value of time. P.s if anyone knows the secret to how not to expect… Do share it with me. Don’t expect + positive outcome = unexpected positive outcome…
c’mon guys ……
I mean deep down inside we all expect but we cover it up in order to prevent ourselves form major disappointments. Have you not expected “that special” phone call form a date you had the night before? or expect others to treat u the way u would, regardless of who they are?
Don’t get me started on time management. I now live in Ethiopia and I still expect ppl to show up on time.. do I get disappointed? Hell yeah, ALL THE TIME. But I won’t learn form my mistakes. I REFUSE TO LEARN coz I expect oneday, this nation of ours will learn and appreciate the value of time.

P.s if anyone knows the secret to how not to expect… Do share it with me.

]]> By: C http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89015 C Tue, 23 Oct 2007 22:35:13 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-89015 One of my favorite quotes, and a completely impossible one to live by is "Blessed are those who expect nothing, for they are never disappointed." One of my favorite quotes, and a completely impossible one to live by is “Blessed are those who expect nothing, for they are never disappointed.”

]]> By: Helina http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88965 Helina Tue, 23 Oct 2007 20:04:39 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88965 lol! i had to laugh when i read this cuz um, we all have people like that in our lives!!! but the truth is they know that they can get away with it! cuz we love 'em anyways...even tho it can be a pain in the ass! lol! i had to laugh when i read this cuz um, we all have people like that in our lives!!! but the truth is they know that they can get away with it! cuz we love ‘em anyways…even tho it can be a pain in the ass!

]]> By: yobi http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88828 yobi Tue, 23 Oct 2007 11:58:15 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88828 "We had time to ask about how the mom, the dad, the kids, the cousin, even the cow and the sheep are doing." lool classic!!!! “We had time to ask about how the mom, the dad, the kids, the cousin, even the cow and the sheep are doing.”
lool classic!!!!

]]> By: Dodie http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88189 Dodie Sun, 21 Oct 2007 15:54:57 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-88189 Dinich, thanks for the explanation:-) I went back to visit Ethiopia once since I was born there, and I see that they have PLENTY of time...PLENTY. It's a beautiful and relaxed environment, unlike here in the states. Dinich, thanks for the explanation:-)

I went back to visit Ethiopia once since I was born there, and I see that they have PLENTY of time…PLENTY. It’s a beautiful and relaxed environment, unlike here in the states.

]]> By: abyssinia http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87563 abyssinia Fri, 19 Oct 2007 15:09:59 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87563 Dinich, <em>arif</em> explanation. You are absolutely right. When we were back home we had time for EVERYTHING. Now we seem to accept the "I don't have time" mentality even to make a call and say hello to family and friends. The sad thing is its not that we really don't have the time, we just used to saying that we are busy all the time. <blockquote>…<strong>des sil</strong> having all that time... <strong>mts</strong> i miss it</blockquote> Me 2. Dinich, arif explanation. You are absolutely right. When we were back home we had time for EVERYTHING. Now we seem to accept the “I don’t have time” mentality even to make a call and say hello to family and friends. The sad thing is its not that we really don’t have the time, we just used to saying that we are busy all the time.

…des sil having all that time… mts i miss it

Me 2.

]]> By: Nolawi http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87381 Nolawi Thu, 18 Oct 2007 23:20:41 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87381 Lol Dinich betam enlighting... thanks for the wonderful explanation... <strong>des sil</strong> having all that time..<strong>. mts </strong>i miss it Lol Dinich betam enlighting… thanks for the wonderful explanation… des sil having all that time... mts i miss it

]]> By: CHIA http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87375 CHIA Thu, 18 Oct 2007 22:47:53 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87375 Dinich right on point. Exactly that is what I mean. Quality of time is important than quantity. All the time they "save" being on time is a waste. They will end up not spending one quality moment. I love it when people are late when I wait for them. Gives me some quality time to spend alone like reading magazines in coffee shops. If people enjoyed simple things they can manage time naturally without counting it. Dinich right on point. Exactly that is what I mean. Quality of time is important than quantity. All the time they “save” being on time is a waste. They will end up
not spending one quality moment. I love it when people are late when I wait for them.
Gives me some quality time to spend alone like reading magazines in coffee shops.
If people enjoyed simple things they can manage time naturally without counting it.

]]> By: Dinich http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87345 Dinich Thu, 18 Oct 2007 20:31:18 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87345 <blockquote>One question, I’m Ethiopian but came to the states at the age of 6. I was taught to be on time and punctual to EVERYTHING. It was instilled in me. So, where does this late thing come from??? I mean 99% of habeshas do it?? What the hell is behind it?? </blockquote> Let me try to answer your question, Dodie. I grew up in Addis. Back home we had time, lots of it. It just seemed that we had time for everything and more, we had time to say hi to everybody on the street, we don't just say hi. We had time to ask about how the mom, the dad, the kids, the cousin, even the cow and the sheep are doing. we had time to go all the way to the airport if a cousin is flying to Russia, we had time to make coffee three times at one sitting and gossip, we had time to talk to strangers on the street, a lot of times we tell each other "see you tomoroow morning" without having to worry about what time in the morning. So in that kind of context being late is no big deal at all. But now, we are busy busy busy. We don't seem to have time for anything. We are timely but we don't have time. We have the watch but not the time. Even when we have the time, we are not used to the relaxed approach to time.

One question, I’m Ethiopian but came to the states at the age of 6. I was taught to be on time and punctual to EVERYTHING. It was instilled in me.
So, where does this late thing come from??? I mean 99% of habeshas do it?? What the hell is behind it??

Let me try to answer your question, Dodie. I grew up in Addis. Back home we had time, lots of it. It just seemed that we had time for everything and more, we had time to say hi to everybody on the street, we don’t just say hi. We had time to ask about how the mom, the dad, the kids, the cousin, even the cow and the sheep are doing. we had time to go all the way to the airport if a cousin is flying to Russia, we had time to make coffee three times at one sitting and gossip, we had time to talk to strangers on the street, a lot of times we tell each other “see you tomoroow morning” without having to worry about what time in the morning. So in that kind of context being late is no big deal at all.

But now, we are busy busy busy. We don’t seem to have time for anything. We are timely but we don’t have time. We have the watch but not the time. Even when we have the time, we are not used to the relaxed approach to time.

]]> By: Dodie http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87343 Dodie Thu, 18 Oct 2007 20:13:55 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87343 [quote comment="86592"][quote comment="86573"]I think that's disrespectful and I have friends that do that. I have to lie and say that I am on my way when I haven't even started getting ready yet.[/quote] lol.... so you think lying is better huh :) ?[/quote] Not really, but if I have to deal w/ people like this, I gotta make it easier for myself or it'll drive me crazy. I just think it's SOOO disrespectful to have me sitting in the car, waiting on you and you're up in your place just getting out of the shower. All along you told me you were already dressed:-((( UGH!!! [quote comment="86592"][quote comment="86573"]I think that’s disrespectful and I have friends that do that. I have to lie and say that I am on my way when I haven’t even started getting ready yet.[/quote]
lol…. so you think lying is better huh :) ?[/quote]

Not really, but if I have to deal w/ people like this, I gotta make it easier for myself or it’ll drive me crazy.

I just think it’s SOOO disrespectful to have me sitting in the car, waiting on you and you’re up in your place just getting out of the shower. All along you told me you were already dressed:-((( UGH!!!

]]> By: Dodie http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87340 Dodie Thu, 18 Oct 2007 20:09:53 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87340 [quote comment="87080"] <strong>People who are late are actually dying for attention and they so lack whatever it is they lack that they have to force attention on themselves by running late.</strong> This way we are forced to focus on their sorry ass (as emebet said) for how ever long it takes for them to show up. I mean we all have something that irritates others and to me people who are late just takes me there. I know a person who is always late and I once told him "you'd be late to your own funeral" and he kinda agreed. [/quote] I really agree that w/ some people the bolded is the case. I have a real good friend that loves to be late on purpose. I asked her why she's always late and she says, we'll be "fashionably" late. I'm like "huh??" Bottom line, she LOVES the attention on her. Oh, and by the way, if she isn't getting attention, she wants to leave and I"m forced to leave w/ her cause she drove:-( <strong> One question, I'm Ethiopian but came to the states at the age of 6. I was taught to be on time and punctual to EVERYTHING. It was instilled in me. So, where does this late thing come from??? I mean 99% of habeshas do it?? What the hell is behind it?? </strong> [quote comment="87080"]
People who are late are actually dying for attention and they so lack whatever it is they lack that they have to force attention on themselves by running late. This way we are forced to focus on their sorry ass (as emebet said) for how ever long it takes for them to show up. I mean we all have something that irritates others and to me people who are late just takes me there. I know a person who is always late and I once told him “you’d be late to your own funeral” and he kinda agreed.
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I really agree that w/ some people the bolded is the case.

I have a real good friend that loves to be late on purpose. I asked her why she’s always late and she says, we’ll be “fashionably” late. I’m like “huh??” Bottom line, she LOVES the attention on her. Oh, and by the way, if she isn’t getting attention, she wants to leave and I”m forced to leave w/ her cause she drove:-(


One question, I’m Ethiopian but came to the states at the age of 6. I was taught to be on time and punctual to EVERYTHING. It was instilled in me.
So, where does this late thing come from??? I mean 99% of habeshas do it?? What the hell is behind it??

]]> By: dawitm http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87262 dawitm Thu, 18 Oct 2007 13:39:41 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87262 [quote comment="87075"]even discussing the subject upsets me. have people never heard of opportunity cost? what people are losing (apart from time) waiting for your sorry ass. i suggest people adopt the 10 minute rule. if you dont show within 10 minutes, i'm out. unless it is for my own 'guday' then the rule changes to 15 minutes.[/quote] lol.... this is a good one. emebet you got it, i agree completely. i do that all the time [quote comment="87075"]even discussing the subject upsets me. have people never heard of opportunity cost? what people are losing (apart from time) waiting for your sorry ass. i suggest people adopt the 10 minute rule. if you dont show within 10 minutes, i’m out. unless it is for my own ‘guday’ then the rule changes to 15 minutes.[/quote]

lol…. this is a good one. emebet you got it, i agree completely. i do that all the time

]]> By: kiki http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87183 kiki Thu, 18 Oct 2007 06:34:22 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87183 I read somewhere that the secret to happiness is low expectations. I mostly agree with it. I just haven't figured out how not to have expectations in relationships though. I don't know if relationships could work without expectations. As for chronic lateness, for some I Think it is a sort of disorder. These people are late for everything. They are late for their jobs, their weddings, doctors’ appointments etc... As the saying goes they might even be late for their own funerals. Others are just inconsiderate jerks and believe their time is more important that yours. Whatever the reason I just hate it when they have me waiting for them. I don't make people wait for me either. I read somewhere that the secret to happiness is low expectations. I mostly agree with it. I just haven’t figured out how not to have expectations in relationships though. I don’t know if relationships could work without expectations.

As for chronic lateness, for some I Think it is a sort of disorder. These people are late for everything. They are late for their jobs, their weddings, doctors’ appointments etc… As the saying goes they might even be late for their own funerals. Others are just inconsiderate jerks and believe their time is more important that yours. Whatever the reason I just hate it when they have me waiting for them. I don’t make people wait for me either.

]]> By: Kebebush http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87123 Kebebush Thu, 18 Oct 2007 01:02:38 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87123 Nolawi, speaking of waiting..........how long should we wait for bp to come back? Nolawi, speaking of waiting……….how long should we wait for bp to come back?

]]> By: DawitK http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87081 DawitK Wed, 17 Oct 2007 21:05:41 +0000 http://www.bernos.org/blog/2007/10/15/fool-me-twice/#comment-87081 Celeb - LOL Celeb - LOL

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