So, with posting #13… you are back as my date for New Year I do agree with you there is a BIG difference between being mysteries and secretive!
I don’t believe being mysteries for too long can be that sexy, as a matter of fact after awhile it just kills the mood. I also believe a conversationalist and I mean conversation with quality is sexy, humor is even sexier… silence on the other hand, not so much!

Don’t get me wrong…I think we both are on the same page!!!

It is worth noting however that mystery is very different from being secretive “holding things back”, stubborn and moody. A mysterious stranger is an attractive person. You want to know more, you want to gain their attention you want to be known to them. On the other hand not knowing about your life and what makes you trick or being downright secretive “holding things back” is something completely different.

Because at the end of the day someone you can read like an open book lacks that essential quality and is therefore less attractive at first glance.

People often say that they meet someone when they least expected it. This is partly because by being busy with their every day routine they didn’t notice that someone had taken an interest in them. This is often in part because you are busy. You are promoting an air of desirability because there is a mystery to you. Your life seems full and they are interested. They want to know more about you.

Actually, it seems more and more accurate…it did say ‘not good at money management UNLESS their work involves these matters. As for #4, the way I understand it is that those type of ppl (note, I’m avoiding the word ‘you’) tend to keep everything in instead of letting it out…then, blow up in a heated anger. Still doesn’t mean they feel personally threatened.

But I hope not every man thinks the way you do….and stay mysterious. Because not every woman has the patience to deal with men like that. I can understand taking time to get to know someone before revealing all and being ‘open’…but ‘holding things back to keep interest level high?’…naaaa, I’m a believer in ’soul mates’ .

1.I think you meant “naturally good at expressing his own feelings and emotions” (It just depends who the person is)

2.Suspicious or Distrusting
(always good to some degree, until you get to know them). Dont you agree

3.Money management well let me remind you I have an MBA in Finance.

4.”Tend to “blow off” conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they “blow up” in heated anger” What happened to “Do not feel personally threatened by conflict or criticism”

So Nolawi – back to 101 on dating…

A busy person is an attractive person because their life appears to be full, but you don’t actually know that. You simply wish to know more. And in trying to know more, you find an interest level that you didn’t find in those that offer you everything on a plate.

I and you are talking about two different articles. The article I referred to was ‘how to ask an Ethiopian woman out’…..don’t remember which month it was from, but Felasfit mentioned something about it last week, and I read it. Going a bit off topic, Was ‘yegna dawit’ from Colorado?

one more thing, can I safely infer from #5, that you want us to think about you…and be more attracted to you..? just teasing.

Tsssss! that’s hot! LOL! I didn’t know what I was up against…my, DavidK is a tough one. (BTW, who is the other David? y do we have K for our David?)

David, with the way u think, no doubt u r among the 10% who always succeed in dating the beautiful women (referring to your comment on ‘how to ask an Ethiopian woman out’) Hmm, I just proved you right….I must be thinking a lot about you that I even remember what you said months ago.
I’d say that you hold back because you are an Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving person. And from what I found out (huhhh, Dave, someone is getting craZy about somebody ) about INTPs;
Their strengths include:
* They feel love and affection for those close to them which is almost childlike in its purity
* Generally laid-back and easy-going, willing to defer to their mates
* Approach things which interest them very enthusiastically
* Richly imaginative and creative
* Do not feel personally threatened by conflict or criticism
* Usually are not demanding, with simple daily needs

and their weaknesses include:
* Not naturally in tune with others’ feelings; slow to respond to emotional needs
* Not naturally good at expressing their own feelings and emotions
* Tend to be suspicious and distrusting of others
* Not usually good at practical matters, such as money management, unless their work involves these concerns
* They have difficulty leaving bad relationships
* Tend to “blow off” conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they “blow up” in heated anger

Daviye, let me take some time off weighing the strengths against the weaknesses…..darn, u r a tough one!

So Nolawi you might wonder why is mystery a key element in attracting women?

Well my friend the answer lies in the way people think. You see, the more time you spend thinking of someone, the more attracted you become to them.

So if you don’t know much about someone, you will spend time thinking about who they are, what they do, what they’re like, and so on. But if you already know everything about them, then you won’t waste your time thinking about them.

Mystery is an “Asset”

Well sorry for not replying sooner, been rather busy. The reason is I’ve been busy as can be with my mom who is visiting from Sweden, Christmas, and Bernos being down for 2 days which sucked.

Anyways, I hope everyone had a great holiday,
I personally had wonderful time with family/friends and a lot of foods – it was just perfect.

Now that Christmas is in the past, I’m back at work…but no worries as for the rest of the year I’m still in a holiday mode.